Sleep association problem (and day 3 of “house”warming giveaways!)

When Baby Love was born I knew I needed her to sleep well. I had Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, insomnia and needed about 10 hours of sleep a night to function, so I knew I couldn’t tolerate having a poor sleeper for a child. So I did everything “right” from day one.

Everything except one thing.

I nursed her to sleep.

I mean, how could I not? As a newborn she’d fall asleep nursing! There was no chance to detach her while she was “drowsy but awake”, because such a state simply didn’t exist for more than a microsecond.

And then she was asleep. And I got to sleep while she slept.

It was win-win. She got to sleep. I got to sleep. What more could I ask for?

But now I’m paying for it.

You see, by always nursing Baby Love to sleep I have created a sleep association problem.

What’s that? Oh no, she can go to back to sleep fine on her own, and is getting more and more independent about falling asleep on her own every day, especially with the addition of her new bed. There’s no problem there.

The problem is that I, The Energizer Mommy, now have a very difficult time falling asleep if I have not nursed Baby Love recently.

I know, I know. I should have seen it coming. After all those months of nursing her to sleep before I fell asleep, smelling the milky smell of her sweat, feeling her sweet warmth cuddled up against me, getting the rush of oxytocin to calm me down, how can I expect myself to fall asleep independently? I have taught bad habits. Now I’ll have to break them.

I guess The Energizer Daddy will just have to sleep train me.


“House”warming give away day 3: Bedtime book!
(Find day 1 here and day 2 here)

To celebrate my shiny new blog I’m going to give away several books (since you might have noticed I’m a book addict). Today’s give away is for  one of our favorite bedtime books: I’ll See You In The Morning by Mike Jolley.

This book is a wonderful, reassuring bedtime book that positively portrays the dark (“Don’t be afraid of darkness, don’t be afraid, my sweet. The night is just a blanket that helps the earth to sleep.”) and separation from mom (“I’ll be here if you need me, I’m only steps away,”) and helps kids calm down in preparation for sleep. Baby Love and I both love it, and it is a staple in our bedtime routine.

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Official Rules: No purchase necessary. Giveaway restricted to US. I purchased the book for this giveaway, I was in no way compensated by anyone for doing it, all thoughts and opinions and gratitude are entirely my own. Entries close at midnight pacific time on January 28. Prize is a board book copy of I’ll See You In The Morning by Mike Jolley. The number of eligible entries received determine the odds of winning. Enter using the Rafflecopter widget above. Winner will be selected randomly. The winner will be contacted by e-mail and have 48 hours to respond. If they do not respond, a new winner will be drawn. I have the right to publicize the winner’s name on my blog. Void where prohibited by law.

22 Thoughts on “Sleep association problem (and day 3 of “house”warming giveaways!)

  1. This looks like such a cute book! Good luck with your new blog!

  2. That is so true! Even when Dd sleeps long stretches I still wake up and have a hard time falling back asleep! Hope you get some sleep soon!

  3. So sweet!

  4. Krystina on January 16, 2014 at 12:34 PM said:

    I need my nursing to get to sleep too :)

  5. I had this problem too! I had problems falling asleep.

  6. Michelle on January 16, 2014 at 1:22 PM said:

    Looks like a great book! My 18 month old would love it.

  7. Love that you need sleep training now :)

  8. I would love to add this book to our collection!

  9. Chelsey on January 16, 2014 at 6:44 PM said:

    Would love to win!

  10. Kristin on January 16, 2014 at 6:51 PM said:

    This is so true! My dd is falling asleep with less and less nursing….yay! Except now I can’t fall asleep without her latched. :/ At least I’m not the only one!

  11. Gina Kolsky on January 16, 2014 at 7:08 PM said:

    Very sweet! & Very true too:)

  12. I wonder how that sleep training will go!

  13. I haven’t heard of that book before, but it looks so cute!! Now its on the list of books to get! (Unless we win it of course!)

  14. Meghan Sommers on January 17, 2014 at 1:31 PM said:

    I have the same sleep association problem! Well, I am mostly over it now, but once I reached the point where I wasn’t going to bed at the same time as my daughter I had a really hard time getting to sleep when I hadn’t just nursed her. I used to think about waking her up to nurse so that I could get to sleep! She usually STTN now though, and my body has acclimated. Though now I’m pregnant, so I have a whole new set of things to keep me from falling asleep…

  15. So interesting how co-dependent we become!

  16. roseane ekkens on January 25, 2014 at 2:00 PM said:

    That looks like a cute book for bed time! :)

  17. Love this! Hopefully it will help me appreciate the *many* times that I nurse my baby back to sleep ;-)

  18. Cassandra on January 25, 2014 at 2:24 PM said:

    This book looks sooo cute.

  19. This whole post was just too cute. Love it.

    And this book looks too cute, too!

  20. Laura peters on January 25, 2014 at 6:51 PM said:

    Hahaha love this !!

  21. my 4 year old has recently developed a dark phobia. We could use this book!

  22. Erin M on January 25, 2014 at 9:14 PM said:

    Oh, I can sooo relate!

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